Busyness

The modern world’s response to stress & how you can find time for you.

Are you always flat out?

Have a huge to do list and never seem to get to the end of it?

As fast as you cross things off, more gets added to it. Or it’s so overwhelming that you don’t even bother starting.

Too many people want your time or attention, and you can’t say no.

People in this situation rarely make time for themselves, they are just too busy. But are they really?

Have you heard of the fight or flight response?

Busyness is a flight response, a way of running away from something stressful that we don’t want to face.

I’m the first one to acknowledge that life is busy. We all have families, jobs, businesses and responsibilities that need our attention. What I’m talking about is when people are too busy to take care of themselves. Too busy to cook and eat healthy food. Too busy to fit in some exercise. Too busy to meditate or write in a journal. Too busy to spend time in nature. Too busy to see a coach or address that niggling emotional health problem that they keep stuffing down into their unconscious hoping it will just disappear.

This is a form of self-sabotage or self-abuse.

Busy people who avoid doing things for themselves, are either staying busy in order not to face something that is troubling them or have low self-worth and don’t believe they deserve to allocate time to themselves.

Did you know that looking after yourself doesn’t have to take a lot of time.

What if you could start with just a few minutes a day?

Here is my list of brain hacks to calm during stressful times that only take a few minutes. You can even multitask and do several at the same time. Please don’t listen to a meditation while driving, but you could put on some calming music, slow your breathing down and let your shoulders drop.

Let’s start with meditation.

There are heaps for free online, including one on this website, that you could listen to at night when you go to bed. If your mind wanders, take a breath and bring it back to listening to the meditation. There is no right or wrong way to meditate. For some it’s a guided meditation, for others gentle music, or walking in nature, rocking in a rocking chair, or laying on the back lawn in the Autumn sunshine.

Choose whichever is right for you and put the busyness aside for 10-15 minutes.

Breathing well is also something that can help with all sorts of negative emotions.

Feeling stressed, take some deep breaths, feeling anxious deep breaths, feeling worried, overwhelmed or just over it, deep breaths.

Start with the out breath, breath out as much air as you can from your lungs, then purse your lips and blow and you will be surprised how much stale air was still in your lungs, now you will find it a lot easier to take big deep belly breaths.

Shallow breathing is a stress response.

When we are stressed, we take shorter breaths and only use the top half of our lungs. Then it becomes habit and we do it all of the time, which tells our brain we are stressed, even if we really aren’t. It’s a vicious circle, so remind your body how to take deep breaths.

Getting outside in nature helps in several ways.

Being in the vibration of nature is naturally calming and lowers the stress response.

There is plenty of documented evidence to show that being in nature is good for us mentally and emotionally. Getting some daily sunshine helps with Vitamin D levels that are vital to feeling good.

The last one is one that a lot of people will remember being told to do by their nanna/grandmother or someone of the older generation.

Splash some cool water on your face.

Water is great for stress levels, drink it, splash it on your face, have a shower or bath and wash the day off, walk in water along the beach, put in a water feature at home and sit by it with a cuppa or find a YouTube video with rain sounds.

Being too busy to spend a few minutes a day looking after yourself is a choice.

Choose you, choose to make time for your mental health, choose to love yourself enough to take care of yourself, be your own best friend. You’ll be glad you did.

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